Guest Adrianne Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 I've been cleaning my house the last few days--one of those big cleanings that includes washing walls and baseboards and getting rid of tons of junk. Anyway, today was my bedroom day. I thought maybe perhaps it was time to put away Wilbur's bed that has lain empty since February 15th. I thought maybe I could finally do it. But when it came time, I found myself shaking the dust out of the pillow & two blankets and folding them neatly back in place beside my side of the bed. I just can't do it. Sigh.....I think they'll just stay there forever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobinM Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 Hugs to you. I have the bed that Polli was lying on when she left us. I didn't even want to wash it. Eventually I did and now it is one of the beds in back of the van. Quote ROBIN ~ Mom to: Beau Think It Aint, Chloe JC Allthewayhome, Teddy ICU Drunk Sailor, Elsie N Fracine , Ollie RG's Travertine, Ponch A's Jupiter~ Yoshi, Zoobie & Belle, the kitties. Waiting at the bridge Angel Polli Bohemian Ocean , Rocky, Blue,Sasha & Zoobie & Bobbi Greyhound Angels Adoption (GAA) The Lexus Project Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest PhillyPups Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 I wish I did not understand, but I so do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
45MPHK9 Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 Quote Tricia with Kyle, our senior mutt dog Always missing Murray Maldives, Bee Wiseman, River, Hopper, Kaia, and Holly Oaks Holly“You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows.“ -Bob Dylan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mychip1 Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 I know exactly how you feel. When Jack died so unexpectedly, everything in the house was just where he left it...the toys, the shoes, the beds, etc. I say the shoes, because he would always bring my sneakers (or one of them) over to me - because he knew that's what I wore for his walks, but the second I got in from work and took my dress shoes off, he would steal them and hide them. I guess he figured I couldn't leave that way. Those first few days after he died, I kept finding a shoe here and a shoe there. One of them is still where he "hid" it. I guess I'll have to buy a new pair of navy pumps because I can't handle moving it. Quote Robin, EZ (Tribal Track), JJ (What a Story), Dustin (E's Full House) and our beautiful Jack (Mana Black Jack) and Lily (Chip's Little Miss Lily) both at the BridgeThe WFUBCC honors our beautiful friends at the bridge. Godspeed sweet angels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Energy11 Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 I totally understand! I have a literal shrine on my wall for Bold Energy, who, will be gone six years on the 17th of this month. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Goldsmom Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 your heart will tell you when it is time..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batmom Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 {{{{{{{{{{Adrianne}}}}}}}}}} Quote Star aka Starz Ovation (Ronco x Oneco Maggie*, litter #48538), Coco aka Low Key (Kiowa Mon Manny x Party Hardy, litter # 59881), and mom in IllinoisWe miss Reko Batman (Trouper Zeke x Marque Louisiana), 11/15/95-6/29/06, Rocco the thistledown whippet, 04/29/93-10/14/08, Reko Zema (Mo Kick x Reko Princess), 8/16/98-4/18/10, the most beautiful girl in the whole USA, my good egg Joseph aka Won by a Nose (Oneco Cufflink x Buy Back), 09/22/2003-03/01/2013, and our gentle sweet Gidget (Digitizer, Dodgem by Design x Sobe Mulberry), 1/29/2006-11/22/2014, gone much too soon. Never forgetting CJC's Buckshot, 1/2/07-10/25/10. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Flysmom Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I know exactly how you feel! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buddibear Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Know the feeling well. I can't get the bottom rows of french door windows washed. I know that's where Kerry Berry and Lord Duncan pressed their black wet noses waiting for someone to come home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Gingergrey Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Hugs to you Adrienne. Do what your heart tells you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest caliebsmom Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I understand. Moe slept on our bed and I haven't been able to wash the duvet cover since. I know that it's really overdue but I just can't stand the idea of doing it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Smiley Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I so understand this feeling. We have an old, scraggly bed (the magical stinky bed) that Smiley loved. It is such a mess and I just do not have the heart to toss it. My mom had a nice idea-she suggested saving the cover, washing it and using parts of it to make a memory quilt at some point. That is something I'm considering. But there are other things in the house that must stay the same-the dog bowls, his blankie and his toy pig. Same goes for Peanut. And there is no rush to move anything. Sending you hugs my friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiveRoooooers Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 There is no hurry. Quote Old Dogs are the Best Dogs. Thank you, campers. Current enrollees: Punkin. AnnIE Oooh M, Ebbie, HollyBeeBop (Betty Crocker). Angels: Pal . Segugio. Sorella (TPGIT). LadyBug. Zeke-aroni. MiMi Sizzle Pants. Gracie. Seamie . (Foster)Sweet. Andy. PaddyALVIN!Mayhem. Bosco. Bruno. Dottie B. Trevor Double-Heart. Bea. Cletus, KLTO. Aiden 1-4. Upon reflection, our lives are often referenced in parts defined by the all-too-short lives of our dogs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MandysMom Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I understand, I couldn't put away or give away my Dalmatian's bed after she passed away. It stayed right in the middle of the living room until I adopted Mandy (9 months later). It made me feel like she was still here. Quote Beverly. Missing my happy toy-flinging boy Sammy (Where's Mandrill), (8/12/2009-9/30-2021) Desperately missing my angel Mandy (BB's Luv) [7/1/2000 - 9/18/2012]. Always missing Meg the Dalmatian and Ralph Malph the Pekeapoo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fsugrad Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 (edited) I am so sorry, and I too know what that is like. Edited July 13, 2010 by fsugrad Quote Rita, mom to Dakota (Dakotas Dream) & Wish (Kiowa Wish Wish) and my angels Toby (Sol Marcus) and Robin (Greys Robin Hood) Forever missing our beloved Robin and Toby "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." Anatole France Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest lynne893 Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 My heart goes out to you. I couldn't put Timber's bed away. She passed September 14 last year, and it took until June 23 for me to pack her bed away (forced to-- we moved). It's very hard. Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4greyhounds Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 :grouphug Quote Darlene Mom to: Aladdin, Sophie ,Pongo, Jasmine, Relic Forever in our Hearts Champ at the Rainbow Bridge. Let a greyhound race into your heart Adopt Bay Area Greyhound Adoptions INC. Naples/ Fort Myers Chapter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ladyhound Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 (edited) I understand. I am so sorry for your loss. I think it will be much the same for me, I lost my beautiful baby 4 days ago. It was killing me to look at the last bed and the last blanket I ever saw her laying on. I finally put it in my car so that her sister Jade could ride on that bed. That way I did not put it too far away and I thought maybe it would comfort Jade. It's so hard, I really do get it. I took Luna's second favorite stuffy (her favorite was buried with her) and I put it in a special place so I don't ever wash it. If it gives you some comfort to have the bed there, then you should leave it. For as long as you want and need to. Edited July 13, 2010 by ladyhound Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sabrina Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Quote Caroline, Mom to Daphne (49B-50215) and Penny (41D-55779)Remembering Bridge Angels Margo and Sabrina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duncan41 Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 You'll know what to do with it when the time is right. Quote Linda, Mom to Fuzz, Barkley, and the felines Miss Kitty, Simon and Joseph.Waiting at The Bridge: Alex, Josh, Harley, Nikki, Beemer, Anna, Frank, Rachel, my heart & soul, Suze and the best boy ever, Dalton.<p> ....for all those hounds that are sick, hurt, lost or waiting for their forever homes. SENIORS ROCK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MP_the4pack Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Oh Adrianne, boy do I understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
racindog Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 Totally understand. I treasure so many of my houndies things that have passed over. I think it is because it has their energy-some items like Ivy's stuffie-surely have even her DNA. Love is energy too. It all makes sense to me and is very comforting. I also think maybe your heart knows that Wilbur will always be with you and the bed kind of symbolizes that. The mind doesn't understand or know as much as the heart does because its stuck in an earth suit. But the love that is part of our heart is the strongest force in the universe. JMO. PS-Please distribute a scritch and kiss to dear sweet Larry and his side kick Ollie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greytpups Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I can understand...I gave away one of Bailey's collars to a grey that was getting scratched by her old one. I had regretted it and thought I was being silly for feeling sad and not wanting to let go. But it went to a really sweet black girl who is really loved. I know the collar will always mean more to me, but my compassionate side won over. However, I have no issues with Brooke using Bailey's stuff...after all, Bailey paved the way for Brooke. Quote Jan with precious pups Emmy (Stormin J Flag) and Simon (Nitro Si) and Abbey Field. Missing my angels: Bailey Buffetbobleclair 11/11/98-17/12/09; Ben Task Rapid Wave 5/5/02-2/11/15; Brooke Glo's Destroyer 7/09/06-21/06/16 and Katie Crazykatiebug 12/11/06 -21/08/21. My blog about grief The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not get over the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to. ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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