Have you tried Double Dark Chocotlate Mate, by Republic of Tea? It is a desert tea. Yummm. Also like Tea of Inquiry by the same company. It is green tea with roasted rice. I just purchased a Bodium coffee press. Anyone else use this. Have not tried it yet.
Funny, We have a Schipperke, Hannibal Barcca, who sounds like and angry bee when it is bedtime. He starts banging around toys, shredding any available paper and just acting grumpy. He is six years old, but he really likes routine.
Part of having any animal can be having messes. It just comes with the territory. I see your husbands frustration, but I see the other side. I have very bad acid reflux and will be on medication for life. It just has to be dealt with. Can she be given any medication? What about unsalted green beans to make her tummy feel more full?