RobinM Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 (edited) I am so sorry. It's a very hard thing to get through. You will never get over it but you will learn to live with it and that's all you can do. You allow yourself as much time as you need. For us, it's been a year and 3 months. We talk about our angel Polli almost daily. And still, with 5 dogs in the house, we miss her presence and speaking of her brings tears to our eyes. It gets better in time but she will always live on in your heart. I am very sorry. Edited May 23, 2010 by RobinM Quote ROBIN ~ Mom to: Beau Think It Aint, Chloe JC Allthewayhome, Teddy ICU Drunk Sailor, Elsie N Fracine , Ollie RG's Travertine, Ponch A's Jupiter~ Yoshi, Zoobie & Belle, the kitties. Waiting at the bridge Angel Polli Bohemian Ocean , Rocky, Blue,Sasha & Zoobie & Bobbi Greyhound Angels Adoption (GAA) The Lexus Project Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greypuppyluv Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been awhile since we've experienced a loss, but I do remember getting through it moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day. It only gets easier with time. And it hurts like h*ll in the meantime. One day you will start to remember Maggie with smiles rather than with tears. Quote Paula & her pups--Paneer (WW Outlook Ladd), Kira & Rhett (the whippets)Forever in my heart...Tinsel (Born's Bounder - 11/9/90-12/18/01), Piper, Chevy, Keno, Zuma, Little One, Phaelin & WinnieGreyhound Adoption Center ~ So Cal rep for Whippet Rescue And Placement For beautiful beaded collars, check out my Facebook page: The Swanky Hound Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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galgrey Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've been where you are now many times over the years and sadly will be there again. It seems to be the price we must pay for unconditional love. Quote Cynthia, & Cristiano, galgoAlways in my heart: Frostman Newdawn Frost, Keno Jet Action & Chloe (NGA racing name unknown), Irys (galgo), Hannah (weim), Cruz (galgo), & Carly CW Your Charming Princess http://www.greyhound-data.com/d?i=1018857 "It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them. And every new dog who comes into my life, gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough, all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are." -- Unknown Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charlies_Dad Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 Glenn, I am very sorry for your loss of Maggie, she was a beautiful girl. As for when does the pain go away, unfortunately never completely. Time does heal wounds however the scar remains. She was very special to you and you to her. You gave her everything she ever wanted, love, security, food and a safe comfortable home. It all sounds very simple but she was grateful for it. As for the pain, everyone is different in their grieving, some will immediately adopt another to help with their grief and to allow another a chance that Maggie had. Others will wait and quietly grieve sometimes never adopting again because the pain of loss is so strong and they feel they will never replace their lost one. I have been down both paths, first thinking that I will not adopt again because my girl was the most special and you know what, she was, and will ever be. As the weeks past, I realized I was being selfish to all the other pups that deserve the same chance as my special girl and that if she was so special and could communicate to me, she would say, please save another and show them what you gave me. I adopted again and yet again, both my boys are very special to me and it did help me. They will not replace my baby girl though, but I know she is happy that I am happy. Quote Kyle with Stewie ('Super C Ledoux, Super C Sampson x Sing It Blondie) and forever missing my three angels, Jack ('Roy Jack', Greys Flambeau x Miss Cobblepot) and Charlie ('CTR Midas Touch', Leo's Midas x Hallo Argentina) and Shelby ('Shari's Hooty', Flying Viper x Shari Carusi) running free across the bridge. Gus an coinnich sinn a'rithist my boys and little girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ivon Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I am so very sorry for your loss of Maggie, it is always so hard when we have to let them go, it's different for everyone. And with some it seems to hit us harder than others, allow yourself time to grieve, and after a while it will seem maybe less enormous. Maggie had a good life with you, and to her, that was the important part. Quote Ivon, Spud, Karma & Sasha Missing Darla (05-22-96 03-01-2010) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFullHouse Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. People grieve differently. Some can get past the loss quickly and others it takes a long time. I know for me, it's been almost two years now and I can finally look at pictures of Emmy and Andy and not break out into tears. I can now remember the things they did that made me smile and laugh without busting into tears. It takes time but some day you won't hurt as bad as you're hurting now. Quote Judy, mom to Darth Vader, Bandita, And Angel Forever in our hearts, DeeYoGee, Dani, Emmy, Andy, Heart, Saint, Valentino, Arrow, Gee, Bebe, Jilly Bean, Bullitt, Pistol, Junior, Sammie, Joey, Gizmo, Do Bee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
queenwinniesmom Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I think we can all understand these feelings, though as others have said, the grieving process is unique to every individual. There is no set time frame, and sometimes, when we think we've come so far, that sadness can sneak up on us at the most unexpected times. Silly, everyday things can bring those feelings crashing down on us, and we find ourselves back in that painful place again. But I believe that the smiles brought by unforgettable memories replace the sadness eventually. For after all, we were blessed to have had them in our lives. Think of what we would have missed, the love we never would have known if we hadn't taken a precious dog into our hearts. I'm so sorry you lost your sweet Maggie. Quote Nancy, Mom to Evangelina and Kiva Missing Lacey, Patsy, Buster, my heart dog Nick, Winnie, Pollyanna, Tess, my precious Lydia, Calvin Lee, my angel butterfly Laila, and kitties Lily, Sam and Simon My Etsy shop: http://www.etsy.com/shop/Catsburgandhoundtown Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batmom Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 I'm so sorry your precious lovely girl had to leave you. Godspeed, beautiful Maggie. Quote Star aka Starz Ovation (Ronco x Oneco Maggie*, litter #48538), Coco aka Low Key (Kiowa Mon Manny x Party Hardy, litter # 59881), and mom in IllinoisWe miss Reko Batman (Trouper Zeke x Marque Louisiana), 11/15/95-6/29/06, Rocco the thistledown whippet, 04/29/93-10/14/08, Reko Zema (Mo Kick x Reko Princess), 8/16/98-4/18/10, the most beautiful girl in the whole USA, my good egg Joseph aka Won by a Nose (Oneco Cufflink x Buy Back), 09/22/2003-03/01/2013, and our gentle sweet Gidget (Digitizer, Dodgem by Design x Sobe Mulberry), 1/29/2006-11/22/2014, gone much too soon. Never forgetting CJC's Buckshot, 1/2/07-10/25/10. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
giadog Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 Glenn, I'm sorry for your loss. Grieving is different for everyone. When DH and I would cry (and sometimes still do!) over our pup who passed, we always knew it meant that he was loved so strongly, and we appreciated the tears even as we let them go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest isntitgreyt Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 I am so sorry for your loss. Run Free Maggie... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duncan41 Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 Glenn, I am so sorry that your time with Maggie wasn't as long as you would have liked. She knew you loved her best. There's a wealth of knowledge and wisdom in the previous posts. Take your time, read them and let your heart be your guide. We are here for you. Godspeed, Maggie. Quote Linda, Mom to Fuzz, Barkley, and the felines Miss Kitty, Simon and Joseph.Waiting at The Bridge: Alex, Josh, Harley, Nikki, Beemer, Anna, Frank, Rachel, my heart & soul, Suze and the best boy ever, Dalton.<p> ....for all those hounds that are sick, hurt, lost or waiting for their forever homes. SENIORS ROCK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KahluasMagic Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 I'm so sorry. They are never with us long enough. Run free sweet Maggie. Quote Lynn Missing Pepper,Magic,Kahlua, Hobbit Ziggy Jasper and Bella Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MyBoys Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet girl, it is just such a hard thing to deal with. Run free sweet Maggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greytpups Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss. When we had to let ts of go, I could just barely function for the next few days. And I still grieve for her 5n months later. But it gets easier. We since adopted another female. It was the best thing for us. There's lots of stages of grief...it's a sad and depressing thing to deal with, losing our beloved companions. Quote Jan with precious pups Emmy (Stormin J Flag) and Simon (Nitro Si) and Abbey Field. Missing my angels: Bailey Buffetbobleclair 11/11/98-17/12/09; Ben Task Rapid Wave 5/5/02-2/11/15; Brooke Glo's Destroyer 7/09/06-21/06/16 and Katie Crazykatiebug 12/11/06 -21/08/21. My blog about grief The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not get over the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same, nor would you want to. ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Gingergrey Posted May 26, 2010 Share Posted May 26, 2010 Glenn, how are you doing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ss556 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 I am so sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is. It's been over a year and although I am much better, it still hurts. I hope you are doing ok and that you find peace in knowing Maggie had a good life with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grey14me Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 I'm so very sorry Quote Michelle...forever missing her girls, Holly 5/22/99-9/13/10 and Bailey 8/1/93-7/11/05 Religion is the smile on a dog...Edie Brickell Wag more, bark less :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Spencers_Greyt Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 I'm so sorry for your loss of Maggie! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest EmbersDad Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 a year plus for ember...almost a year for jed....some days i can look back and smile and laugh, other days im somber and i still cry....don't think it will change much more. we all know your pain. run free maggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dogdaze Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 I just read about your Maggie and I am really sorry. I know how much it hurts, but it honestly does get better. At first it's like this huge tidal wave of grief that is absolutely overwhelming, and if you stop thinking about your loss for a moment, then the next moment, it washes over you again. Every one is different but gradually you will start feel better, and eventually be able to recall the good times and smile. I lost a dear Border Collie back in January and it is becoming a little easier to walk the same routes with my other dogs. I also lost our Greyhound, Russ to lymphoma 3 years ago. We adopted and older girl, Pepper, just after losing Russ and she really helped mend our hearts. Focus on the wonderful life that Maggie would never have had if it weren't for you and other greyhound lovers. That might help/ And maybe consider taking anothe greyhound into your home. reyhoundinto your I don't know how the words got all jumbled. Anyway, maybe consider taking in another adoptee. That is just something to consider. Good luck and you really will feel better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandimom Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Godspeed sweet Maggie and know you were so loved and made such an impact on your human family. May the wind always be at your back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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