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  1. Joe - IMHO - not a "delicate" question - a normal LIFE question. My first grey, Sobe, took a BITE out of my DH when we had sex when Sobe was new to our house. I think he was "protecting" me, and had no idea what's going on. We stopped everything and dealt with an upset dog. After that , we learned to shut the dogs out of the room. Mac is probably confused.. Human sex makes no sense to dogs. So - Put him in another room when the mood strikes.
  2. Pick the dog that fits your household. Gender doesn't matter. When I went to adopt my first grey, I thougt I wanted a "small female". I came home with a large male. IMHO - be blind to gender, size, age, etc. Find the dog that FITS in your home. Fostering is a great option for figuring that out.
  3. I'd suggest - tough it up - get in. I had a foster years ago that was terrified of vehicles. My neighbor, a horse-trainer, saw me struggling to get the dog in the car. He offered to help. He said - This is what I do to load skittish horses. Looped a leash under the hind quarters, pull, and up and in we go. It makes them get in, and when nothing terrible happens, they get it. I only had to do it twice. It's very effective.
  4. No shame in that. I whole-heartedly agreed with going with a group that fosters before adoption. I had 1 grey that wasn't fostered and it was ROUGH - and I'd already had a grey of my own that was fostered. To have a first grey that wasn't fostered is very, very hard. You seem like a kind and thoughtful family. You'll find the right dog!
  5. Also - I wouldn't bring another dog in yet. In the future, sure. But not now.
  6. I completely agree with the others. Take it slow. I'm sure everything you read told you they need long walks. Your dog will be FINE if he doesn't get his full cardio in for a month or three lol. "keep his world small" is perfect advice. And then a little bigger, then a little bigger. I had a foster that didn't go 15 feet out the door for 2 weeks. Then we went 30 feet away for 2 weeks. I thought yeah! So I took her outside the yard - into the real world, and she statued. And then I carried a 75 lb dog home (not easy). Too much, too fast. So, we started over, and within a few more weeks, she was out in the world, and could go anywhere. Just don't rush. You rush - you go backwards. Slow and steady progress is the key.
  7. I agree with that - if you have a friend with a dog that could come visit and "do their business" in the yard (garden) that's very helpful. Even if you keep your dog inside when it visits - the smell will encourage your dog. Don't worry! It's early. This will resolve quickly!
  8. That sounds like a solid plan. If it turns into a systemic issue - drop the hammer and make it a no-go zone. But certainly give it another chance, or two , or three, with correction, and try to correct the "chair guarding". If there were small children in the house and it was a safety issue - I'd give different advice.
  9. D*mn -he's ripped!!!! Gorgeous example of a grey in his prime!!! Also - love the "roach" - that's a happy grey. Good for you for reaching out for help - but also good for you for realizing greys will have quirks - just figure them out and move on. Lovely dog. Ask questions as things come up. This community has seen it all.
  10. Back off. Walk 100 yards, and go home, Repeat. The "world" is a terrifying new place. Introduce SLOWLY. If he's cool with 100 yards, turn around and do the same route again. Do the same short route 3 times if he wants to each walk. For a few days. Then, expand a bit. Go 150 yards. And repeat that route over and over. And then more, and more, but repeat, repeat, repeat the same ground. Always try to go back home before the fear hits. I've carried a 75 lb grey home. I never want to do that again.
  11. The honeymoon is over. I firmly believe many new greys have a honeymoon period where they're perfect. Because the're a bit shell-shocked, they act perfectly. Then they get comfortable, they feel safe, and their personality quirks come out. The issues come out. The stuff you read about before you adopted....but ....yours was perfect!!! ....but now not so perfect. Been there, done, that. I called my adoption agent in tears 2 months after adoption because my "PERFECT" grey was no longer perfect. He started to sleep startle and resource guard. And she said "Yep - the honeymoon is over. That means he's happy and comfortable, and now the work begins". Do your research. Do the work. You CAN fix this. Many people have issues on day 1. But - t's not uncommon to only see them on day 30, 60, 90. And that's OK. You've done nothing wrong. Greys are quirky. Greys have issues. But - greys are ADAPTABLE. Greys can LEARN. You were lulled into a sense of ease, sorry. I'll bet you were ready for this on day 1. It's a huge let-down when it happens later. I know. But it's OK! Re-set your mind. Call this day 1 - and work through it!
  12. I'm quite sure he can get his nose out. Why is he crated when there is someone home to hear this? Reduce/Eliminate crating. Sorry if this sounds harsh - but crating is a transition tool to help our dogs transition be house pets. Some greys need them long term -most DO NOT.
  13. Relax. Greys will NOT see a baby as prey. Yes - they are small and squeal - but they don't run. Greys are sight-hounds. If it doesn't run - it doesn't trigger hunt mode. Your dogs WILL NOT see the baby as a prey target. And they DO understand the difference between a tiny human and a squirrel. Take a breath.. Now - there are things you should do to include your baby into the pack when it's born. Bring something with the baby's scent on in into the house. Introduce them outside the house. Of course, never leave the baby alone with the dogs. There are lots of resources on the topic, Read - prepare - but don't panic. I had a friend bring a small baby sleeping in a carseat into my house with my 2 greys, and a foster. They all sniffed her and walked away. No issues. The Foster, who was an older female, layed by the baby's side all evening. I got her a blanket because she was falling asleep beside the baby instead of in one of the cushy beds. My 2 greys had no interest in the baby at all.
  14. Live - Love - Learn - all with a full and grateful heart.
  15. LOL - love the "threat" of jail, as well as the physical barrier. Well done. Thanks for sharing. My greys are gone - the stories of their misadventures - I now tell with a smile and laugh.
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