Sending lots of good thoughts. Your concerns are so completely understood.
Aquitaine is having extractions done next month by the only board certified dental surgeon in NYC. He is who my own vet wants me to see. I asked my vet to do it and he refused. He said that as good as he is with greys, he doesn't feel secure enough to do the dental (and he probably doesn't want to see me hysterical if anything goes wrong!). I have already had a long talk with the surgeon and feel good about him. As an added bonus, the new head of the center will also be the anaesthesiologist and he is from Ohio State and has worked with Dr. Couto. I can't figure out any way this could be a better situation.
One thing that the surgeon said that did help me calm down was that I had less cause for concern about her being a bleeder since she made it through her initial dental and spay with no problems. She has also had both an accident and an attack in the past 12 months and had to have Propofol for the clean up surgery following the attack.
He was fine about having Amicar on hand. He also mentioned a drug to bring her temperature down if it should spike once she is home (forget the name...anyone know what it is? Begins with a "D".). My own vet will do the pre-surgery bloodwork and start her on anti-biotics if he thinks she needs them.
Thanks, EllenEveBaz for posting the great information.