He seems exactly like Phoenix. Phoenix isn't shy, he's just a bit reserved and very cat like. He's not a snuggler, He's very laid back; so much so that after I first adopted him, I used to wake him up every once in a while to make sure he was still alive. HONEST!~ He only shows real enthusiasm with a few people, and it took well over a year for him to take treats from my hand. Having said that, 3.5 months is nothing! Hermes will change; Phene is still changing and I adopted him 8 years ago! Relax and be patient .