Forevermybabies

Cindy, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Incidentally, I've had one "visitation" from my grampa, who died when I was 5. It was an amazing and beautiful experience. It happened that I wasn't actually sleeping at the time. It honestly was one of those times that changes your whole belief system.

About two weeks after Joe died, and right after we got Angel, I was lying in bed, and saw a greyhound tail - with a white tip - slip out the door of the bedroom into the kitchen. I didn't HEAR anything, but didn't think anything of it. Then later I thought, we'd just gotten Angel, but I was SURE she didn't have a white tip on her tail...but Joe did. I went and checked her tail...no white tip. Then more recently I had a dream where Joe came. It was SO real. And I just felt so much love. It was a huge comfort. I wished I didn't have to wake up.

Anniversaries are so hard. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry! What a shame!

I'm so sorry for your loss. It hurts to lose any pet, but such a young dog must be especially painful. Hugs to you and your family.

I'm so sorry Lisa.

I'm so sorry.

Please convey my condolences to your friends.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

That is so touching. Made me cry...

I'm so sorry. Some days it just hurts so much... Hugs. Tami

Thank you. Anniversaries are so hard. I feel really down today. And Michael is off rehearsing, the kids are sleeping at the neighbors...I'm going to cuddle with the dogs and tell them about Joe.

I'm just heartbroken to read about this. I can't read the responses, as I'm at work and will just lose it. We are sending so much love and sympathy to your family right now. I'm so very sorry for your sad loss.

I can't believe you've been gone three years. My lovely boy. My beautiful baby. My heart. Thank you Joe for all you gave to us. All you meant to us. All the warmth and love you brought to our lives. Three years...But you are still here in my heart if not in my arms. Some day I will hold you again. Until then...come visit me in my dreams, okay? In the words of my favorite poet, "You were something more than young and sweet and fair, and the long year remembers you." Always, Momma

So sad. I don't have, and have never had horses, but I have such a deep love for them. This is so heartbreaking...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Of course you still miss him and grieve for him. There's no timetable on grief. You don't have to be finished at a certain date. Grief comes and goes. A memory or anniversary can bring it to the surface again when you think you've gotten through the worst of it... Here's a sonnet that I've posted before... Time does not bring relief; you all have lied Who told me time would ease me of my pain! I miss him in the weeping of the rain; I want him at the shrinking of the tide; The old snows melt from every mountain-side, And last year's leaves are smoke in every lane; But last year's bitter loving must remain Heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide! There are a hundred places where I fear To go,--so with his memory they brim! And entering with relief some quiet place Where never fell his foot or shone his face I say, "There is no memory of him here!" And so stand stricken, so remembering him! Edna St. Vincent Millay

Death is so hard for everyone, but for kids especially because it's just so far beyond their grasp of what is concrete and tangible. Everyone has different ideas of what death is and what happens after death. Personally, the way we dealt with it was more to deal with what was within us, and not where Joe is now. In other words, he will remain forever in our hearts, and as long as we remember him, he is alive for us. Though it's awful that we don't get to see him here on Earth, we have only to close our eyes and remember to feel that love again. Death is a sad and difficult part of life. One we must deal with though. We talk to our kids about Joe when they want to. Sometimes we look at pictures and remember things that we did together. We let them know that we share their grief and pain, and also their love. We let them know how important it is to treasure the ones we love now so that when they are gone we know that our hearts will always remember. One other thing that I've learned is that the depth of our grief is a reflection of our love, and while we are in pain, we must also feel similar joy to know that we had an opportunity to share our love with another creature. Hugs to your daughter. Love comes in so many forms. I'm really proud of her ability to care so deeply for an animal that I think receives very little regard as a pet.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

A lump in my throat for you. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this tragedy.

I had a similar dream about two years after Joe died. It was SUCH a loving, comforting dream. So great to see him again. I'm glad you got to be with him again...even if only in your dreams.

I'm so sorry...he was so beautiful.

I'm so sorry...