There are people who come into our lives when we least expect them. People who have no business being there, actually, but thanks to a serendipitous moment in time, they are. A chance encounter when walking across a college campus over 25 years ago led to my friendship with one of the most wonderful women I have ever known.
Marge Robertson taught Social Work at my University. I was a social work major, so you'd think we'd meet. But the classes I took weren't the ones she was teaching, and so she was never my instructor. But our paths crossed outside the library one day, and she stopped and listened to whatever was on my heart at that time.
She became a sort of mentor for me. I would go to her with my confusions about life and college and whatever, and she would listen, calmly and caringly, and when I left, nothing seemed as insurmountable as when I had arrived.
Life took me far away from my college town, but I always knew she was there, in the house where she and her husband raised their children. I tried to visit her on the times I went back to college town. It didn't always work out, but those visits merged with our occasional phone calls and annual christmas/hannukah letters to help us keep in touch with each other's lives.
I had the opportunity about 10 years ago, to tell Marge, face to face, exactly how much her friendship and encouragement had helped me over the years. She believed in me when I didn't believe in myself, and she gave me a role model of how to be a human being, alive and caring in a world that often seems bent on destroying those who care.
That wasn't our last visit, thank goodness. It's just one that swam to the surface of my consciousness last Saturday, when I read the email I had hoped to never receive. I'll have no more visits with Marge.
Her funeral was today, 700 miles north of me. I couldn't take a moment of silence at the appointed time, because I was in the middle of a conference call. But as soon as the call ended, I took time to reflect on my friend, and to thank God for our friendship.
I am a better person because she was in my life. The world is a better place because she lived. And I will miss her, in ways that I have not yet begun to realize. She was a constant in my life, always available, always caring. She will still be a constant, but it will be in my heart. But that's ok - it's where she's always been, for as long as I've known her.
Shalom, Marge. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world around you, and with me.