Newgreymom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Not sure if this is the right place to post, but I need your help. We let Dylan run free Thursday at age131/2. He was having trouble getting up from a laying down position. He stopped eating about a week ago. We got small amounts in him, but it was a struggle. He also vomited 3 times last week which was unusual. Wednesday night, he slept in his crate in a different room. He has ALWAYS slept next to me on his bed. Thurs morning he went to get out of the crate and by the time I got to him, he was struggling so bad to get up, I thought he was having a heart attack. He then proceeded to pace and pant for 3 hrs. He would go to a corner of the room and just stand there. He was on Gabapentin, Tramadol, And Robaxin. We are devastated, by know in our hearts it was the right thing to do. My friend who is a vet in a different state is upset with me and thinks I put him down too soon. This whole thing is killing me and now I'm second guessing what I did because of her....I can't stop crying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustSnoozing Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Very sorry you had to let him go, but it really sounds like he told you it was time. Quote Dippy (Dinky Dipstick) and Velvet (Redbrick Velvet). Remembering sweet handsome Rebel (Emporio Rebel). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batmom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I think you did the right thing. Your dog was struggling, and you did what a loving, compassionate person does. I'm so sorry for your loss. I think your friend deserves a sharp rebuke. You were there and you know your dog as your friend could not. Godspeed, Dylan. Quote Star aka Starz Ovation (Ronco x Oneco Maggie*, litter #48538), Coco aka Low Key (Kiowa Mon Manny x Party Hardy, litter # 59881), and mom in IllinoisWe miss Reko Batman (Trouper Zeke x Marque Louisiana), 11/15/95-6/29/06, Rocco the thistledown whippet, 04/29/93-10/14/08, Reko Zema (Mo Kick x Reko Princess), 8/16/98-4/18/10, the most beautiful girl in the whole USA, my good egg Joseph aka Won by a Nose (Oneco Cufflink x Buy Back), 09/22/2003-03/01/2013, and our gentle sweet Gidget (Digitizer, Dodgem by Design x Sobe Mulberry), 1/29/2006-11/22/2014, gone much too soon. Never forgetting CJC's Buckshot, 1/2/07-10/25/10. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShebasMom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I think Dylan also was telling you it was the right thing to do. I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighsayer Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 You showed your love for your dog by doing the right thing. It's always so hard! Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FiveRoooooers Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 A professional, even a friend who is a professional, couldn't know your dog as you did. Please don't second-guess yourself. Dylan told you the best way he could that he was ready and you honored him by listening. Quote Old Dogs are the Best Dogs. Thank you, campers. Current enrollees: Punkin. AnnIE Oooh M Angels: Pal . Segugio. Sorella (TPGIT). LadyBug. Zeke-aroni. MiMi Sizzle Pants. Gracie. Seamie . (Foster)Sweet. Andy. PaddyALVIN!Mayhem. Bosco. Bruno. Dottie B. Trevor Double-Heart. Bea. Cletus, KLTO. Aiden 1-4. Upon reflection, our lives are often referenced in parts defined by the all-too-short lives of our dogs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
macoduck Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I will add Dylan's name to the list of Bridge Angels. He will not be alone. Quote Freshy (Droopys Fresh), NoAh the podenco orito, Rita the podenco maneta, Howie the portuguese podengo maneto Angels: Lila, the podenco, Mr X aka Denali, Lulu the podenco andaluz, Hada the podenco maneta, Georgie Girl (UMR Cordella), Charlie the iggy, Mazy (CBR Crazy Girl), Potato, my mystery ibizan girl, Allen (M's Pretty Boy), Percy (Fast But True), Mikey (Doray's Patuti), Pudge le mutt, Tessa the iggy, Possum (Apostle), Gracie (Dusty Lady), Harold (Slatex Harold), "Cousin" Simon our step-iggy, Little Dude the iggy ,Bandit (Bb Blue Jay), Niña the galgo, Wally (Allen Hogg), Thane (Pog Mo Thoine), Oliver (JJ Special Agent), Comet, & Rosie our original mutt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greysmom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Your friend wasn't there. You were. It doesn't matter what anyone else - even us - think about it. You did what *you* thought was best. FWIW, I think vets, and people doctors too, get stuck thinking that just because something *might* be able to be fixed, or some symptom *might* be treatable, that it should be. Sometimes, the compassionate, ethical thing to do, is to *not* try anymore. Quote Chris - Mom to: Felicity (DeLand), and Andi (Braska Pandora) siggy by Chris Harper, on Flickr Angels: Libby (Everlast), Dorie (Dog Gone Holly), Dude (TNJ VooDoo), Copper (Kid's Copper), Cash (GSI Payncash), Toni (LPH Cry Baby), Whiskey (KT's Phys Ed), Atom, Lilly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ozgirl2 Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Hugs to you - and run free, Dylan The mantra on here is "better a day too soon than a day too late..." Sounds like Dylan was telling you it was time Quote Jeannine with Merlin, the crazed tabby cat and his sister, Jasmine, the brat-cat With Angel Cody(Roving Gemini), and Weenie the tortie waiting at the Bridge Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Houndmommy03 Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 So sorry for your loss. Please don't second guess yourself (easy to say I know). You did what you thought was best (and it sounds like he was telling you it was time). Sending hugs. Quote <p>Kim and the hound - RumorMissing my angels Marlow, Silver, Holly and Lucky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
queenwinniesmom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I feel that after the years that we are blessed with their unconditional love, we owe it to them to let them say goodbye with dignity and without suffering. So often, we delay that decision based on our own feelings, and desire to keep them with us. You knew in your heart that your precious boy was telling you that he was ready to go. Please don't beat yourself up over what someone who was NOT THERE thinks you should have done. Shame on her. No matter what her feelings are, telling you that you put him down too soon doesn't accomplish anything, only serves to make you feel worse than you understandably already do. Please let yourself grieve for Dylan, celebrate his life and your time together, and try to let go of the guilt. You are guilty of nothing, in fact, you made a very difficult decision based on love and concern for your dog. Quote Nancy, Mom to Evangelina and Kiva Missing Lacey, Patsy, Buster, my heart dog Nick, Winnie, Pollyanna, Tess, my precious Lydia, Calvin Lee, my angel butterfly Laila, and kitties Lily, Sam and Simon My Etsy shop: http://www.etsy.com/shop/Catsburgandhoundtown Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FordRacingRon Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 My heart breaks for you and your loss. You know your dog better then anyone, you know when the time is right. Your pup is now running free with no pain. A dog that doesn't eat for a week and spends time vomiting is just not a healthy dog. Do not second guess,,just look forward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KF_in_Georgia Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Your "friend" is a fool. You and your vet--and Dylan--agreed what was best for Dylan. For your friend to second guess what you and your vet decided is both rude and unprofessional. You were there when Dylan needed you, and you did what Dylan needed for you to do. Quote Kathy and Q (CRT Qadeer from Fuzzy's Cannon and CRT Bonnie) and Jane (WW's Aunt Jane from Trent Lee and Aunt M); photos to come. Missing Silver (5.19.2005-10.27.2016), Tigger (4.5.2007-3.18.2016), darling Sam (5.10.2000-8.8.2013), Jacey-Kasey (5.19.2003-8.22.2011), and Oreo (1997-3.30.2006) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BatterseaBrindl Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 And I agree with everyone else. Better a day too early, than a minute too late ..... Quote Nancy...Mom to Sid (Peteles Tiger), Kibo (112 Carlota Galgos) and Joshi. Missing Casey, Gomer, Mona, Penelope, BillieJean, Bandit, Nixon (Starz Sammie), Ruby (Watch Me Dash) Nigel (Nigel), and especially little Mario, waiting at the Bridge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duncan41 Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 Oh, Sandy, I am so sorry!!! I know what a fabulous, caring, concerned and loving Mom you were to Dylan and there is no one on this planet who is going to convince me that you made the wrong decision. All the signs were there and you recognized what Dylan was trying to tell you. That's what greyt Moms do even when it feels like your heart is being ripped out of your chest. Godspeed, Dylan. Send your Mom a sign...............she needs to know that you're happy, healthy and running like the wind. Quote Linda, Mom to Fuzz, Barkley, and the felines Miss Kitty, Simon and Joseph.Waiting at The Bridge: Alex, Josh, Harley, Nikki, Beemer, Anna, Frank, Rachel, my heart & soul, Suze and the best boy ever, Dalton.<p> ....for all those hounds that are sick, hurt, lost or waiting for their forever homes. SENIORS ROCK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remolacha Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 No one knows your dog better than you, your friend was cruel to say such a thing. For what it's worth, if my 13 1/2 yr old dog was struggling to get up, had stopped eating, and was pacing and panting, I would have thought it was time too. It is human nature to second guess ourselves in a situation like this, but I am sure you did what was best for your dog, no matter how hard it was for you. Shame on your friend for making it more difficult! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sireltonsmom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I was told, when it was time to let Sir Elton go, "Better a day too soon than a day too late". Dylan's story mirrors our heart dog's. You did good. You did the brave and kind thing for him. Second guessing is normal I think. Dylan is out of pain and not struggling anymore. Hugs to you and yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest kar Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 It is always HARD to make that decision, I have had to do it three times. But I said to myself I cannot bear to see them suffer any longer just because I want them to live longer. it sounds like it was his time. You will always miss them, but you put him first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Houndtime Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I'm very sorry for your loss. Quote Irene Ullmann w/Flying Odin and Mama Mia in Lower Delaware Angels Brandy, John E, American Idol, Paul, Fuzzy and Shine Handcrafted Greyhound and Custom Clocks http://www.houndtime.com Zoom Doggies-Racing Coats for Racing Greyhounds Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beachbum1 Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 So very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradymom Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I agree it is never an easy decision, please don't second guess your decision. Your friend was not there and Dylan will be waiting for you at the bridge. He is pain free and running with friends. I am so sorry for your loss. Debbie Quote The handsome boy Brady, mid-morning nap. The sun, the sun feels so, so, so good. I can't keep my eyes open ... ... Retirement agrees ... ... and the Diva Ms India, 2001 - 10/16/2009 .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJNg Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I can't believe someone who is your friend, much less a vet, would question or criticize you in a situation like this. I always tell my clients with geriatric dogs that they are the best judge of when it is time to let them go. I can help provide guidance and answer medical questions, but it's ultimately their decision, and I'm there to help support that decision. Quote Jennifer & Willow (Wilma Waggle), Wiki (Wiki Hard Ten), Carter (Let's Get It On), Ollie (whippet), Gracie (whippet x), & Terra (whippet) + Just Saying + Just Alice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fliggie Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 If you did the wrong this, so did I in January of this year. Only you and your dog and your family can make the decision. I'm so sorry for your loss. Gentle hugs. Quote My Photojournal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
45MPHK9 Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 (edited) I can't believe someone who is your friend, much less a vet, would question or criticize you in a situation like this. Agree. What a cruel, senseless thing for a so-called friend to say. Edited July 12, 2014 by 45MPHK9 Quote Tricia with Kyle, our senior mutt dog Always missing Murray Maldives, Bee Wiseman, River, Hopper, Kaia, and Holly Oaks Holly“You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows.“ -Bob Dylan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tbhounds Posted July 12, 2014 Share Posted July 12, 2014 I'm upset that someone had judged you like that. You mentioned that this person is a vet--he/she should have known better---how hurtful. You were the only one qualified to make such a decision. Fwiw-just reading your post I believe you made a sound decision--it didn't sound like Dylan was enjoying life any longer. There becomes a point where one needs to decide if we are keeping them selfishly here just because we can't let go. I do believe second guessing your decision is only natural but, please be easy on yourself. Dylan still loves you and he is no longer unwell. {{{hugs}}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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