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  1. Dear Cody, my angel at the bridge;

    I can hardly believe that 2 years have past since you left us. I can still see you romping in the yard, and everytime I pass your tree, now called "Cody's Corner", I think of the times you spent there, snoozing happily away in the summer warmth. More often you were chasing squirrels, birds, and racing around the yard with your brother Bailey, and doing your best to turn the yard into a moonscape. I remember your cold nose nuzzled into my hand if I was outside, you were my velcro boy and stuck by my side, and my hand seemed so empty once you'd left us. You were never one to be ignored, or even to take a place behind your brother. Larger than life, you enjoyed the time you had here with every fiber of your being. We did not know that time would be so short, but no regrets here, we enjoyed every second of the time we had with you. You were closest to my heart in those first months.

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    While your brother enjoyed being an escape artist, you never tried to run away. You were happy being here, and loved Bailey a lot. He has never allowed anyone to be so close to him as you were.

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    In the 2 years you've been gone, I have thought of you every day, at first with grief, shock and horror because of how you passed. With time, I came to appreciate that you went so quickly. It was hard on us here, but so much better for you. I was also given the gift of being with you when you passed, mostly because Bailey barked to let me know something was wrong. He never used to bark in those days, so that allowed me to stay with you as you went to the bridge. That has comforted me more than anything, I think. As time has passed, we have been able to slowly heal, and while your absence is still felt, more often it is joy that I feel when I think of you, and all the times we had together. You taught me what it was to be loved by a big alpha greyhound, and there is nothing in the world to compare to that.

     

    We all miss you sweetie, and one day, I will see you again.

     

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  2. I don't think there's any one answer to that Dan. Those of us who have lost beloved greys know the kind of pain you're in, although your losses have been great to lose 3 so quickly.

     

    I know when Cody left so suddenly, what helped me most was being here on GreyTalk, where my loss was understood. That, and my remaining boy helped me pull myself together again. Keeping busy, once I was able to concentrate again helped too. And I know that having to go get another grey, while painful, was necessary for Bailey, and Lou did distract me from the pain as well. My boys need me to be there for them; and while sometimes all I could do was sit down on the floor and cry with them there by my side, the grief gradually softened over time. A lot of time.

     

    The second anniversay of his death is rapidly approaching, and while I still deeply feel the loss of Cody, I can appreciate the memories more now, and smile softly when I look at his favorite spot in the yard instead of dissolving into grief when standing on the spot where he died. We can speak of him now, and the things he did without an overwhelming sense of pain and loss. And mostly, I think when I look into the eyes of Bailey, Lou and Romi, I remember that I must love them now, and be here for them now, because that is all we really have.

     

    You're in my thoughts. :grouphug

  3. My deepest sympathies to you on your losses. What a horrible experience to go through.

     

    When you are at your lowest, that is the time to turn to this forum. When I lost Cody, it was under different circumstances, and also very sudden. The only thing that held me up was the love and support I received here. Please don't stay away too long. There are people here that have had the same thing happen, and while most of us have not been through this horrible kind of tragedy, we will be here for you.

     

    :grouphug:grouphug:grouphug

     

    Run free at the bridge with Cody, sweet Lacey.

     

    :gh_run2:gh_run2

  4. That's a rough break, but I think the other posters are right, it's your love and memories that will help you through this horrible time. I do have Cody's ashes, but they are just a symbol, and sometimes that symbol makes me think of his death, rather than his life.

     

    I have been working on an area of the garden where his favorite spot to lie down was. I add special things each year, and I call it Cody's corner. When I look at that spot, I can just see him, trying to dig up the tree roots, or going over and pooping on a bush (he loved making poop bushes!). Cody's corner makes me think of the beautiful pupper that we had, and the love than shone out of his eyes, and the great times we had with him.

     

    It helps with the grief, I stongly recommend working on something that will help you remember your love and the good times, not her death.

     

    I am so sorry for you loss; and my heart is breaking for you.

  5. 3 qrts peroxide

    1/4 cup baking soda

    1 tsp dish soap

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    Ex- mobile groomer here, and this is the recipe I always used, without fail, except with dog shampoo rather than the dishsoap. Worked much better, if freshly mixed, than the commercial products. And you'd do better drinking your tomato juice, really, as if you have a dog with white fur on him, it will turn the fur orange. :lol

  6. I miss Cody's middle-of-the-night TiChi sessions on my bed. I miss the way he used to jump up on his back legs and paw me to greet me, even tho it's not supposed to be good to let a dog do that. He looked like a big puppy the way he just pranced around in happiness. I miss the way he always had his big wet cold nose in my hand. I even miss the way he used to whine and howl if I was online for too long. And I am grateful that he went so quickly, for altho it was such a shock and very hard on us, he did not appear to suffer at all, and was gone within a few minutes.

  7. I have a Cody at the bridge too. I'm sure that he and the rest of the bridge kids will take good care of her, until you see her again.

     

    The heartache will slowly fade with time, try to feel comforted that you gave her a good home, she was much loved while she was here, and you did let her go free when you knew the time was right for both of you. Remember that, when things feel dark.

     

    Run free, sweet Cody.

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  8. We lost Cody very suddenly this past April, and both my daughter and I will still sometimes tear up or cry about him. We had to adopt another boy, Lou, very quickly, as Bailey was on a hunger strike. Lou did not stop the pain, but he did distract us. We have adopted a third since then, Roman, who is rapidly becoming my heart dog, but I will never forget my Cody. We often talk about him, how he'd like some new toy we bought, how how he might have responded to one of our new additions, things like that. I have his ashes on the mantle, and I'm working on a memorial for him in the garden.

     

    I don't believe there is a set time frame or even a set way to grieve, we are all individuals and you just have to move through it as best you can. It's been 6 months, and I still have trouble with the Remembrance forum, as I find it painful to read. Yesterday when I found out Casey had gone to the bridge, I cried my eyes out, then got up and had a snuggle with Romi. It helped.

     

    Hazel will send you send you someone when the time is right.

  9. I'm so very sorry you've lost Sophie. There's just no words to express the sorrow.We prayed as hard as we could, I guess they needed her at the bridge.

     

    Run fast and pain-free to the bridge, little Sophie, Cody is there to show you where all the good treats are.

     

    :f_pink:gh_run2:gh_run2

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