Thank you for your reply. Yes, all good info. The "mean" cat I should probably be calling a "tough" cat. We adopted him, he's not feral. He's a barn cat and he can handle his own. He's wants to be near us when we're outside. And sneaks in because he wants to be an indoor cat, but we have allergies and we've made him a penthouse out of the shed. He is fed in there and sleeps there at night. He has his own kitty door in and out and cozy sleeping spots and toys that my kids made for him. We adopted him, he's ours. I may not love his personality, but he's ours
6 years ago when I got our pup, I was talked out of getting a greyhound on greytalk because we had younger kids. Then when my kids begged for cats, I checked to see if greys could live harmoniously with them and not understanding the difference between getting along with indoor and getting along with outdoor cats, assumed they could. Last year, I was talked out of getting a grey due to our two barn cats and got an Italian greyhound mix that loved our outdoor cat (one cat has since run away). Tragically, our second pup died just 9 months later and we are heartbroken. But after seeing how well it worked out with our IG mix and the cat, I thought maybe this was finally our time. Sigh. I'm so sad. I've wanted a greyhound for maybe 20 years.
Thanks for everyone's honesty.